Thursday, June 21, 2012

Are you Gay or Feminine if you paint your toes as a man?

I always find this to be an interesting question or opinion by some.  There are those narrow minded people who will stereotype a man as gay if he does anything 'different'.  Remember when all men who wore ear rings were gay?  Now we think nothing of it.  It's really SO SILLY to label people based on things like how they choose to decorate themselves and painting our toes is just another form of decoration or a way of expressing our style.  Or maybe it's simply something we like.

my male painted toes with a toe ring, red polish and jeans, men
Red painted toes, a toe ring and jeans. A normal male look
Oh my god, could it be that simple?  Yes it can be.  Painting your nails does not make you anything, not gay, not weird, not perverted and not a rock star, sorry if I burst your bubble on that one, lol.  Painting your nails is no different than choosing a colored shirt, it's just color on your toes.  Now granted, if you paint your toes and wear high heels, a skirt, makeup etc, then at some point you can start looking feminine to others.  And if that's what you want, go for it, it's your life.  But my point is that too many guys worry that they will look like a pansy or be perceived as feminine for painting their toes, or fingers.  But if you just paint your nails and don't take it further, you won't look feminine.  I know a number of guys out there in cyberland who paint their toes, or finger, or both, and many are very manly otherwise.  Like Jim who is somewhere around 6'6" tall and played college football for years (hope I have your facts right Jim) and he paints his nails all the time but otherwise looks and acts like a normal guy.

So painting your nails has NOTHING to do with sexual orientation.  You can be straight, gay or bi and paint your nails, but painting them doesn't change who you are.  And if others think it does, so what.  Yeah, I'm sure many guys have walked past me in the past 4 years or so of going out in public with my painted toes showing and thought that I must be gay, or a pansy.  But I really don't care, it's my life and I'm going to live it the way I like.  Now on that note, for those of you new to my story, I've been going out with my painted toes showing for around 4 yrs or more and have NEVER had one really negative remark about my toes, from men or women, so it's much more in your head than in reality.

So many people are afraid of anyone that acts 'different' than the typical male so they are quick to judge.  But do you really want to be friends with people like this anyway?  Probably not.  Hopefully you are more open minded than those people and are learning to judge others based on their personality and not on how they dress or decorate themselves, or even if they are gay or bi.

On that note, it's time for me to go repaint my toes in a really cool light metallic blue.  And I'm straight, I do construction work and I have no fears of losing my masculinity, but I'm not afraid to have color on my toes.

Feel free to post your experiences on this subject as well.  And guys, just do it, it's fun.

Monday, June 11, 2012

I'm so Lucky on my birthday ...

men with red painted toes
My current color is Close to this one, but a darker red
Just had my 51st birthday this Sunday and had a great day.  But the reason I'm writing is to tell you how lucky I am to be married to a wonderful woman, my wife Carla.  To treat me for my birthday she offered to paint my toes for me.  Now, she had done this before, but it was extra special because it was my birthday.  And each time it reminds me how lucky I am.  I have a wife who loves me just the way I am and loves my unique ways.  It's not just the painted toes either.  I also shave my body from nose to toes, have an ear ring (one, which was her suggestion too), I like pink socks, some womens shoes because they are prettier than the boring mens choices, and fun, and I do things like wear pantyhose or tights in the winter.  I even wear a sarong in the summer, or a skirt in the winter because it's more comfortable to me.  I'm also a nudist, as is she, and so sarongs and skirts are the closest I can get to being naked when I have to wear something due to the cold, or to avoid offending anyone.

And she likes it ALL.  Wow, can you say lucky guy (pun intended as my name is Guy, lol).  Heck, she even loves shaving my legs and arms when we can.  She shares some of her skirts and sarongs with me and helps me pick out shoes.  Of course I do the same for her so we have a unique relationship.

Now for those of you who don't know me, let me clarify.  I don't wear skirts to look like a woman, nor do I wear makeup, although she likes a small amount of eyeliner on me.  Nor do I wish to be a woman, I am just an open minded freethinking kind of guy and I do and wear what makes me happy.  Now I do have a bit of a foot fetish, which is one reason I like toe rings, nicely painted toes, shoes, socks, anklets and such, but I mostly love painting my toes just because I LOVE the way they look.  I once thought that if I could do it all the time I might get bored with it and quit but, WRONG.  I've had my toes painted an average of about 355 days a year for about 3-4 years now and I still love it as much as the first day I tried it about 20 years ago.

So I just wanted to let everyone know how lucky I am and to say THANK YOU to my amazing wife.  I hope that many of you can find the kind of support and acceptance that I have, but if not, just enjoy it anyway.

Life is to short to live it for others.